Change is constant, change is important.  But do the Gays in our society today have the right to flaunt what they feel?  Do  they have the luxury of making their  dreams into reality? To love and to be loved freely.

Philippines is still enveloped by bourgeois acts leading  into hilarious judgments and of course things that are obscene.  Literally gays in our society are still facing a great  battle and that is dealing with people who are hard to pleased and those who felt clean. But in my 21 years of existence I have seen a bit of a change, slowly people are a little bit of open and considerate towards what  gays feel.

Things that they  love, things that they wanted to do freely. But  the real change is still can't  be grasp.

My friend Mark is still frightened, he is still afraid of his past that made him traumatized. It started with a confession to his father, confessing that he is gay.  He thought that when he confessed and if  he would tell his father about his sexuality, he will be free from the burden he's been carrying for almost half of his life. But it was a terrible move. He was battered and beaten badly.

He forced to move out from his father's house, slept and live on the road. His father  was a police, and he dreamt of letting his son followed his footstep. But he failed, since Mark wants to pursue his fashion designing   dream.

Everyone tend to say opinions about how gay communities should behaved and how to express their personal ideas of what is life and what is society on their own ways. As the world is not convince and has remained conservative on its shallow way, judgmental minds and a crocodile eyes are lurking around to bully, prejudge and of course to stay against gay community on expressing the freedom that they have longed for. And this happened to my friend Jeff.

Jeff is an open gay, has proclaimed it to the whole world that "he is gay." His family are quite accepting to  this matter, without hatred and prejudging attitude Jeff was dearly accepted  wholeheartedly. For Jeff it is the best moment of his life, being accepted by his family and to celebrate the freedom that he has longed for. To be free and to love with his the same sexuality. But his struggle has never end there.

While busy buying food for his family, he was approached by somebody whom he recalled as not familiar to him and abruptly bullied and yelled. The lady told him such morbid lines and even pin pointed him as delirious self proclaimed gay, and that he is a sinister in this town. Almost everyone in the market watched him left teary eyed, shaking and gasping for air. He felt so ashamed and down.

He never tell the happenings to his family and had remained mum about the issue. He is a Muslim, as per Jeff being a gay on their society is a huge dealings that would put him and his family in danger.  Might be his family accepted him dearly but the conservativism  attitude of the society that he is in can brought him to danger or worse comes to worst his death. And Jeff has created a very well written blog about gays and how they skirmish life and battled for their respective rights live and the freedom that they should fairly obtained. Check it out!

But Jeff is destined to change the view of gays on his community. He is now a head of a "Non Government Organization" fighting for gay rights in his town. And that Jeff happily ever after. A proud and dignified gay advocate.

Since 1991, the Metropolitan Community Church Philippines has officiated what it calls holy unions of same-sex couples who want sacred sanction of their commitment to their relationship.

Not a different reason from the more common heterosexual church marriages, it would seem. But when same-sex couples were joined in holy union in Baguio City a few days ago, a Catholic bishop said on television that they were “abnormal” and had “mental problems” and that the government should declare same-sex marriages as illegal. 

 

Now the very concepts of “normality” and “legality” are slippery slopes, with shifting definitions depending on who is doing the defining, and they have historically led to some really bad things.

Remember when women were less than normal human beings who were irrational, emotional, and therefore, could not be allowed to vote?